On Being Worshiped

Couple bathing togetherWhen it comes to religion and gods, I don’t believe in them, but I find many of the metaphors and techniques within them useful.  One metaphor I have found of particular value is to either hold someone else as a god or goddess; to hold another in a space of an object of worship, devotion and adoration.  Additionally, being held in this light by another person can be an incredibly empowering and enlightening experience.

It is rare to experience utter devotion and adoration in our lives.  In fact, I would guess that most people have never had the experience.  I had never experienced it until my late twenties, when I became involved with learning techniques of Tantra.  I had never truly given it until I began to practice Tantra with a partner.

“Devotion frees.” ~ Vigyan Bhairav Tantra

Devotion not only frees the devoted, it also frees the object of devotion, or the action one devotes oneself to.  Devotion frees through love.  To be devoted, truly and wholly, one must first surrender to one’s love.  This experience in itself is freeing, and is only amplified by the acts of devotion that follow it. Read more »

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Ego, the Subconscious, and Higher Consciousness

Hawaiian Tiki Totem Pole

Hawaiian Tiki Totem Pole

In Huna (Hawaiian Shamanism), there are three aspects to awareness:

  1. Ku – The Heart Aspect – similar to the Western concept of the subconscious.
  2. Lono – The Mind Aspect – similar to the Western concept of the conscious or ego.
  3. Kane – The Spirit Aspect – similar to the Western concept of the higher consciousness.

In Huna, it is said that the Ku or subconscious has access to both the Lono or conscious, and to the Kane or the higher consciousness.  It is said that the Kane and the Lono have no access to each other.  Thus, in Huna tradition, it is only through the ego exploring the subconscious that the higher consciousness may even be touched.

Working on my ego is not about trying to gain anything; rather it is about trying to create a life I really love living. So many people try to kill the ego or push the ego away, when in actuality it is the ego that allows me to be in physical reality and enjoy my life on Earth. Being happy, clear, and aligned in the physical reality and the ego can only help raise the vibrations of my subconscious, and therefore also my higher consciousness. As a physical, but not-only-physical being, why not allow my ego to be in partnership with my subconscious and higher consciousness, and help raise the vibration of everything to which the ego has access, but the higher consciousness does not?

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How to Chant Bija Mantras

Hindu man chanting a mantraMantras are one of the oldest tools for transformation and higher consciousness that uses sound. A mantra can help to awaken emotions and stimulate the mind. Effects of chanting mantras can usually be felt both by someone chanting them, and someone listening to them.

The word mantra comes from the Sanskrit, and means advice or suggestion. Almost any word might be thought of as a mantra. Each word we use offers a suggestion to our mind, and our minds respond to them immediately.

Mantra might also be thought of as a kind of an energy pattern.

Each Bija Mantra corresponds to a particular god or goddess, and five of them correspond to the first five chakras in the chakra system, with OM corresponding to the sixth chakra. Read more »

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Seven Core Masculine Archetypes

The Wild Man

The Wild Man

These seven archetypes were heavily influenced by my participation in a men’s circle, the work of Robert Bly in Iron John and my experiences with Tantra and sacred sexuality. I employ a combination of mythical archetypes and relationships to the 7 Chakras.

In the western nations the press frequently demonizes men and paints us as devils, rapists, oppressors and all manner of despicable shadow-masculine characters. Most men I know would not fit into any such category, and yet most men I know have never read nor seen an essay about the sacred nature of men, while reports of rape, murder and men oppressing women can be read any day of the week in the newspaper. In short, I see a world literally filled with men who exhibit the 7 archetypes I’ve listed below, and with a small and ever decreasing minority of men who fit she “shadow” version of those archetypes, yet by reading the press, viewing the television and movies, or going to a modern university, one might get the impression that the shadow men make up the majority. Read more »

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Soul Gazing Exercise

eye contact

A key to great sex: Eye Contact!

Communication is something that occurs on many levels.  Most frequently, we think of communication as being a two-part exchange.  There is the receptive communication of listening, and the active communication of speaking.  Yet we intuitively know that communication goes far beyond what we do with our ears and mouths.  Communication occurs on many levels, the majority of which are nonverbal.

Soul Gazing helps exercise one of these nonverbal communication channels, by opening up an energy connection between your eyes and the eyes of your partner.  Eye contact, particularly when it is prolonged and intimate, can be very challenging.  As with many challenges, however, the payoff to fully submersing oneself in the exercise can produce profound results for both participants.

Purpose of the Exercise

The Soul Gazing exercise in Tantra is a method of communicating with your lover that is completely nonverbal.  As such, it may open new doors to intimacy in your relationship that were previously unexplored.  Use this exercise to communicate on a deeper level with your partner, and to awaken new lines of exchange.  Soul Gazing harmonizes the energy of both partners, creating an open heart space where deeper intimacy may be achieved. Read more »

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